And now for introductions.....

Today Ronald Cummings and his mother were on the Maury Show; and after reading on the boards, I am again amazed.

First let me start by saying this:

HaLeigh has two parents that obviously love her and are suffering. She has grandparents on both sides of her family that are in great pain not only because their beloved grandchild is missing; but they have to watch their own beloved children suffer a pain greater than anything they ever suffered, and they are powerless to do anything to ease it.

I wanted to post the above disclaimer so the rest of my thoughts on this subject are not going to be misunderstood as a bash fest to either parent.

As stated, Ron's appearance on Maury was broadcast today, I watched, and then I made the mistake of reading on some message boards.

One poster was just completely confused as to why Ron would refer to HaLeigh as his daughter; Huh, let's think about this great concern for a moment.

When Crystal appeared on Nancy Grace, she referred to HaLeigh as 'our daughter' she too did not use HaLeigh's name.

Pot meet Kettle

Ron has been attacked on the boards for months for not doing enough,not going to the media, begging for HaLeigh's return.

How often has Crystal been on various shows, begging for HaLeigh' return?

Pot meet Kettle

Ron has been attacked for not crying on various interviews.

How often has Crystal cried on interviews?

Pot meet Kettle

Ron has been attacked because his lawyer says they are trying to raise money to hire a private investigator; this met with gasps and horror.

A benefit concert was just held, proceeds going to HaLeighbug

Pot meet Kettle

Ron was first attacked for not doing anything for HaLeigh's birthday, then true to form, when he and his side of the family scheduled a balloon release with fliers, he was attacked, one blog even suggested that this should be considered littering.

Crystal and her side of the family did a school supply drive in honor of HaLeigh.

Pot meet Kettle

Ron is attacked because he cannot offer information because he was at work.

Crystal stated on Nancy Grace she also has no idea what happened or when or who was the last person to see HaLeigh.

Pot meet Kettle

Ron appears on Nancy Grace in a suit and tie, the insults fly across the keyboards

Crystal appears, on Nancy Grace, clearly looking very nice, much different than other interviews, and once again just the opposite.

Pot meet Kettle


The point I am attempting to make is that the bias and hypocrisy is so obvious, it is insulting to the intelligence of the vast majority of bloggers that are really concerned about HaLeigh.

If anyone is looking for perfection in Ron or Crystal, you will be disappointed, there are no perfect people, only perfect intentions; which I do believe that Ron and Crystal both have in regards to their children.

I am sure that both of them beat themselves up each and every day for mistakes and judgement errors they have made.

I don't think either need every tear, expression, word, or garment picked apart as some amateurish sleuthing attempt to prove that one or the other is guilty of a crime.

Of course those that do find this a necessary part of their day, it speaks much louder about them, than it does about those they have honed their negative energies on so mercilessly.

Donna Brock hits the media....

Well, once again the spotlight on the HaLeigh Cummings case is going to shine on someone that has interjected themselves into on on going police investigation.

Donna Brock is going to be an 'exclusive' on the Levi Page show, along with some other favorites, including good old Lenny Padilla, most known from the Casey Anthony case, but also tried to offer his services to Misty, via a possible trip to Canada. Steph Watts will also be there; wonder if Art Harris feels left out?

I wonder why, if true, Donna gave information to investigators, and they have chosen not to share it with the media, exactly what is Donna thinking? What does Tim Miller feel about this?

To listen, here is a link:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/levipage

Will this help or hinder the investigation? I don't know, but it seems to me some of those that continue to leak information really don't care.

Sticks and Stones may break your bones: But words WILL hurt the Children....

There has been much talk about what could have happened to any missing person; often times discussion on these cases buzz on message boards, fill blogs, and are twitter topics.

We all have our opinions on these cases, developed with a combination of media reports, personal experience, and interpretation of interviews, including facial expression, tone, accent, the list is endless.

But we all do have our opinions.

So many cases that I have followed there seems to be a popular theme; the complete character assassination of someone that the missing person loved and trusted; many times with not much more than mere speculation.

In 1988, Jaclyn Dowaliby was taken in the night from her home while her parents and younger brother slept. The police quickly ran dry with leads, and decided that the break-in was staged, and focused on what they believe was the obvious suspects, Jaclyn's adoptive father, David Dowaliby, and her mother, Cynthia.

The investigation was nothing short of a witch hunt. Charges were filed against both, but due to lack of evidence, charges against Cindy were dropped. Cindy's dropped charges didn't stop child services from taking her son, and newly born infant from her though..eventually it was proven in court that child services literally trumped up charges. There excuse was, it was because they were sure of the guilt of the parents in the death of their daughter--no need for a trial...child services convicted them, and so did the media. David went to trial, and was found guilty.

Long story short, in 1991, after exposing the corruption and sloppy investigation, David's conviction was over turned.

Whenever I hear about a missing child, I try to think of this case. Why? Because I was one of those that felt simply due to what the media reported that this couple did murder their child.

Now, many of us are following HaLeigh Cummings. While I do believe that most are following, posting, and blogging about this case out of concern for a missing child, I also believe that some have gone way too far in 'expressing' or maybe 'defending' their opinion.

Each and everyday I have read down right cruel things posted about Ronald and Crystal. Some parody sites have even sprung up, somehow finding humor tearing down one parent or the other.

This is my question:

How can anyone say that they care about HaLeigh, or her little brother, if you can post simply cruel posts about their parents, or extended families?

Discussing the facts, that have some uncomfortable truths, is one thing, but finding new and exciting ways to mercilessly ridicule them goes beyond pale.

We all pray that Haleigh will be found alive, should this miracle happen, how do you think she would feel about all the out and out cruel things said about her family? Should the worse happen, how do you think Junior, will feel, not only losing his sister, but also hearing on the playground all the special things people have posted about either his mother or father?

As the title of this blog states, Sticks and Stones may break your bones Something most of us teach our children, but we by teaching that, are lying to them as well, because words do hurt, sometimes more than sticks and stones.

One may not like Ron and Crystal for various reasons, and that is the right of each and every person. I do think though, we should take a cue from both Crystal and Ron, neither of them have said half the horrible things about each other in public as strangers have.

If the two of them that are suffering can be that decent to each other, even considering their past, I don't think it would to difficult for us to do the same.

The road to Hell is paved........

After watching various news shows, and reading various blogs, it is clear that two very different camps have been set up in regards to Tim Miller and his current actions in the HaLeigh Cummings case.

Yes, everyone has an opinion and are entitled to them, and as I too have an opinion, I thought I would offer it.

First of all, I completely agree with Marc Klass and his comments last night on Nancy Grace's show. Marc is correct that people in these circumstances are very vulnerable, and trust is a very important tool to get people to offer the information necessary to find missing children. I do believe that this fiasco could do damage to other groups that offer help to families and TES as well.



The reasons I hold this opinion are as follows:

1. Misty's tests:

There is absolutely no logical reason for Misty's poor test results to be offered to the media in any form. This information should have went directly to law enforcement, after all, don't you all think there is a reason that law enforcement never confirmed the results of their tests? The excuse that Tim was being attacked by Misty or anyone else is not an excuse; Misty and her lawyer never said anything until after the results were made public, via various media outlets.

2. Confidential talks with Ronald:

Love, Hate, or Indifferent, what logical reason would Tim have share these discussions with the media on any level? If it is true, that Ron was trying to get Misty to talk, to slip up, well that sure throws a monkey wrench in that plan. If Ron is lying, how exactly does it help Tim gain the trust of Ron by blabbing what he said in confidence to him? Did it help law enforcement? Did it bring new information from the public? No, on all accounts.

3. Guns, Threats, and changing accounts:

Now as the most current account of Ron with the gun and the threats he made, this too is a mess, and why? Well, for one reason the story has changed, morphed really, like a twisted game of telephone.

The first we heard of this was an interview on Geraldo, and this gun talk, and blowing Misty's teeth out the back of her head took place in NeJames office, that we have on tape. The next account was from a blogger, that says it did happen in the house, but no mention of Ron Jr. being present; the last and really most frightening story, is that Ron Jr was there, and Ron even demostrated how he would kill himself later.

Apparently, a concerned reader of that blog, reported this to DCF in Florida, and if this blogger is to be believed, it was DCF that contacted Tim Miller for a statement in regards to this incident, which he willingly gave.

Things that make ya go Hmmmmmmmm....if this was as horrific as described by the blogger, why didn't Tim Miller report this himself? According to bloggers that have quoted Tim Miller, one of the reasons for arranging to send Misty away was the fear for her safety; then wouldn't it be logical to report this to DCF and law enforcement, rather than simply offer the story to media sources?



4.Cloak and Dagger

The whole undercover TES member is what really sends this over the top. First of all, even Misty knew from the start that this woman knows Tim Miller, works with TES and also knows she failed her testing provided by Tim Miller. Why Tim or anyone else would think that a shopping spree, hair and nail pampering, along with trips to tourist sites would suddenly make Misty spill her guts is beyond me, and to most people I think with common sense.

Now, of course on this issue, I may end up eating crow should law enforcement crack this case with information that this exercise provided, but it seems that so far this is not the case; in fact, the only thing that we know, is that both spy and target are accused of road rage, and flipping the bird. Oh, and again, should the information provided by a blogger be true, the TES worker says Misty has a very hot temper.

My opinion is mixed in regards to the use of donations to TES for this project, but that ultimately is up to the board members of TES to make that call; and up to those that supported in the past, or plan to in the future to support or not.

It has long been said that the road to hell is paved with good intentions, that could be the case here; or it could be a case of ego over ruling common sense and good judgement. Perhaps it is a little of both.

It is my opinion, that side show antics like this hurt an investigation, it brings pain to the families, and it seems at this point to only provide fodder for internet gossip, accusations, and so far has done nothing to solve the mystery of where HaLeigh is, or who is responsible.

History repeating itself

I was blogging about the Anthony case a year ago, and went back to read my last post..It is eerie because it mirrors what is happening now in the HaLeigh case, in fact we still have some of the same 'characters'

Lenny was back for a minute, offering a time limited reward.
Tim Miller who attacked Lenny for conducting searches and media mongering in the Anthony case is back; doing pretty much the same thing Lenny did in the Anthony case.
Art Harris is back, with his exclusives.
Nancy Grace is back, with her Bombshells.

And through all the smoke and mirrors, the most important person in this case has taken a back seat to all the hype.

A six year old girl, missing for eight months, named HaLeigh.